Why Are We Not Self-Compassionate?
What do you think is the number one reason people give for not being self-compassionate? What could be the harm of being nice to ourselves? What are we afraid of if we love who we are and give ourselves the care that we need? Well, let me tell you… The NUMBER ONE REASON we are not compassionate with ourselves is: THE FEAR OF LAZINESS AND SELF-INDULGENCE “We think whipping [ourselves] is why we achieved what we’ve achieved…we worry that if we stop beating ourselves up we’ll become lazy or complacent.” This is what the Nagoski sisters teach us in their book, Burnout . Kristen Neff, expert researcher and author on self-compassion agrees. “[People] worry that they will become weak, or that they will be rejected, if they don’t use self-criticism as a way of addressing personal shortcomings.” In short, we are AFRAID to love ourselves! If we start to believe we can love ourselves, our minds will start to play the what if game: What if I don’t acc...
