The other day I was listening to how my 12yo spoke and reacted to different scenarios.
Which led to me thinking about how I speak. Oops! We do tend to lead by example, don't we!
And so I am re-reading one of my favorite books (see picture courtesy Amazon.com). It's a great refresher course and so much more eye-opening with older kids in the home.
At breakfast the other day we created a list of Validation Statements on our white board:
I'm sorry you feel that way...
What can I do to help?
That would stink!
What would you like to do about that?
I agree!! (my favorite)
And then someone thought of one word: LAUGHTER
Instead of getting defensive, laugh about it (within respectful boundaries, of course). Sometimes we take life a little too seriously.
That's what we've been working on.